Things to do on FaceTime with your boyfriend or girlfriend: 25 ideas for long distance calls

You’ve covered work, lunch and the weather, and now you’re both just smiling at the screen. Here are 25 things to do on FaceTime with your boyfriend or girlfriend, from quick ideas for a quiet moment to whole evenings that feel like being in the same room.

When the call goes quiet: 5 quick ideas

1. Ask a question from a coupleroom deck. Not “what’s new?”, but something you have never asked, like “what’s a smell that takes you straight back to childhood?”. The coupleroom app has 3,000+ questions in 100+ topics, and there is a free deck right below to start with.
2. Rose, thorn, bud. The best part of your day, the worst part, and one thing you are looking forward to. Three minutes each, and you learn more than from an hour of small talk.
3. Room show-and-tell. Each of you picks one object within reach and tells the story behind it. You will be surprised how much you have never asked about.
4. Rate my fridge. Open the fridge, show the camera, get a score out of ten and a dinner suggestion. Silly, fast and oddly intimate.
5. Hum that song. Hum a song, no words allowed, and let your partner guess. Loser picks the next question.

Everyday things to do together on a call

The thing long distance couples miss most is not the big dates. It is the boring, ordinary time together: cooking, cleaning, lying next to each other doing nothing. You can get a surprising amount of that back on a call.

1. Cook dinner at the same time. Prop the phone up in the kitchen and cook, even if it is not the same recipe. Then eat “together”.
2. Do the chores together. Laundry, dishes, tidying up. Boring tasks go faster with company.
3. Work or study side by side. Keep the call on, mute yourselves, and look up now and then. It is the closest thing to sharing a desk.
4. Get ready together. Morning coffee before work, or a skincare routine before bed.
5. Go on a walk together. Earbuds in, both outside at the same time, showing each other where you are.
6. Grocery shop together. Video call from the store, and let them choose your snack.
7. Fall asleep on the call. Many long distance couples swear by it. Even a few minutes of hearing each other breathe beats a “good night” text.

Things to do that show effort

When you cannot hug, effort is the love language that travels best. These take a little planning, and your partner will notice.

1. Read a book aloud. One chapter per call, from a book you both pick. A book club for two.
2. Learn something together. A language, chess, a few chords on the guitar. Do a lesson on the call and quiz each other.
3. Build a playlist live. Take turns adding a song and explaining why. It becomes the soundtrack of your relationship.
4. Write a letter and read it out loud. Handwritten, then mailed after the call, so it arrives a few days later as a second surprise.
5. Send a surprise and open it on camera. Food delivery, a small gift or a box with a note. The reaction is the best part.
6. Plan the next visit, in detail. Where you will eat, what you will do on the first evening, the first thing you will say. A countdown on both phones makes it real.
7. Draw each other. Five minutes, no peeking, then the reveal. Keep the worst ones.

Things to talk about on FaceTime that go deeper

Once a week, swap the daily update for a real conversation. It is the part of the relationship distance does not have to touch.

1. The 36 questions to fall in love. The famous study questions work just as well on a screen. Start with the 36 questions.
2. Future plans. Where you want to live when the distance ends, and what a normal Tuesday looks like then. See questions about the future.
3. Memories. Your first impression of each other, your favorite visit so far, the moment you knew.
4. Love languages. Take our love language quiz separately, then compare on the call. Distance changes what you need most.
5. A compatibility test. Our couples compatibility test is made for two phones: answer separately, send each other the link, and talk about where you differ.
6. Would you rather, the deep version. Bigger dilemmas, longer answers: would you rather questions for couples.

Coupleroom: something to do on every call

Most couples apps are built for people who live together. Coupleroom works on two phones in two cities, so the distance does not get in the way.

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• Your calls never run out of things to do. 3,000+ questions across 100+ topics, from light to deep and from sweet to spicy, with new ones added regularly. Open a deck when the call goes quiet.
• Remote Mode for different time zones. When you cannot be on a call at the same time, Remote Mode sends you both the same question. Each answers on their own phone, and the answers are revealed once you have both replied. There is always something waiting for you after a long day.
• Games made for two phones. Perfect Match is the newlywed game, scored for you: you answer about yourself and guess your partner’s answers. Who Among You, Truth or Dare and Fantasies work on a video call too.
• A shared ritual. Question of the Day gives you one thing to talk about every day, and the weekly Dilemma lets you vote separately and see how other couples chose.
• Small daily effort, big feeling. Answering a question for your partner takes a minute, but it tells them you were thinking of them, even on days without a call.
• Fair for both of you. You get up to 300+ free cards to start, and one Premium subscription covers both partners, so nobody pays twice.

What can you do on FaceTime with your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Ask each other questions from a deck, play quick games like this or that, cook or do chores side by side, go on a walk together, read a book aloud, plan your next visit, or fall asleep on the call.

What do you do on a long distance call when you run out of things to say?

Switch from talking about your day to doing something together: a question you have never asked, a quick game, a room show-and-tell or a shared task. An app like coupleroom has 3,000+ questions, so there is always something new.

How do you show effort in a long distance relationship?

Small, planned gestures: a letter you read aloud and then mail, a surprise delivery opened on camera, a playlist built together, learning something new as a pair, or answering a daily question for your partner even on days without a call.

Is there an app for long distance couples to do things together?

Yes. Coupleroom works on two phones: Remote Mode sends you both the same question and reveals the answers once you have both replied, and games like Perfect Match are made for playing apart.

How often should long distance couples call?

There is no right number. What matters is that both of you look forward to the calls. Many couples do a short daily check-in and one longer call or date a week.