Would you rather questions for couples: 55 with real results
Fifty-five would you rather questions for couples, each with something no other list has: how real couples voted. They come from the weekly Dilemma in the coupleroom app, where couples have cast more than 28,000 votes so far. Pick a side each, compare, then check whether you are with the crowd.
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How to play would you rather as a couple
- One of you reads the dilemma. Both of you pick a side silently, then reveal on three.
- If you agree, say why in one sentence each. If you disagree, the one who picked the less popular side goes first.
- Only then check the percentages. A 50/50 means couples genuinely split on it; a 75/25 means one of you is with the crowd.
- No dilemma has a right answer. The interesting ones are where you surprise each other.
Play it right here
Play: would you rather
Both pick a side, then tap it to see how real couples voted.
This fall’s dilemmas: the latest results
The ten most recent weekly Dilemmas, newest first. Exes, flirting, money and family, with the live vote split.
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Stay close friends with an ex13%
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Cut off contact with an ex completely87% -
Tell your partner every time someone flirts with you67%
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Not mention it if it meant nothing to you33% -
Have stronger emotional compatibility64%
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Have stronger sexual compatibility36% -
Live close to family, even if it limits your career opportunities39%
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Move far away for a better life and career, but miss your family61% -
Have a similar approach to money but different plans for the future28%
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Have similar plans for the future but completely different approaches to money72% -
Take your partner’s side in an argument with their family, even if you agree with the family62%
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Be honest and say that this time, you think their family is right38% -
Tell your partner you don’t like one of their friends75%
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Keep it to yourself and avoid influencing the friendship25% -
Have a joint account and make all financial decisions together57%
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Keep your finances separate and share only your joint expenses43% -
Spend most of our free time together75%
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Regularly plan time apart, even when you both happen to be free25% -
Have unlimited access to your partner’s phone58%
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Treating your partner’s phone as their completely private space42%
Christmas would you rather: holiday dilemmas
Whose family for the holidays, how to split the gifts, Christmas for two or with everyone. New holiday dilemmas appear here as each December week closes.
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Holidays always with one family26%
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Splitting the holidays equally between two families74% -
Traditional family celebration in a big group57%
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Spending the holidays traveling and stepping away from “traditional” family gatherings43% -
Every Sunday with family, tradition matters43%
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Family get-togethers only on special occasions57%
Love, honesty and closeness
What you would tell each other, what you would keep, how much space you need.
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Have strong physical closeness, but a weaker emotional connection30%
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Have strong emotional closeness, but less physical closeness70% -
Be with someone who shares the same values, but has different interests72%
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Being with someone who shares the same interests but has different values28% -
A relationship where you always talk openly, even if it leads to an argument71%
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A relationship where you try to avoid difficult conversations so you don’t create conflict29% -
Tell your partner all your secrets63%
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Keep some secrets for yourself37% -
Talk about everything every day69%
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Talk less, but about meaningful things31% -
Always tell 100% of the truth, even if it sometimes hurts60%
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Smooth things over and say them more gently, so you don’t create drama40% -
Talk about your feelings every day, even the little things69%
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Only say something if it was really important31% -
Always tell your partner when you're mad at them66%
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Letting little things go in silence34% -
Tell your partner about every time someone hit on you69%
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Don’t bring up these situations, so they don’t create tension in the relationship31% -
Have a relationship full of closeness, but with little independence73%
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Having lots of independence, but sometimes feeling more distance from your partner27% -
Kiss and show affection in public, even if others are watching58%
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Show affection only privately, at home42% -
Build intimacy through sensual, romantic gestures and atmosphere48%
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Build intimacy through shared play, laughter, and a relaxed approach to each other52%
Money, home and everyday life
Shared accounts, chores, holidays and where to live. The everyday trade-offs.
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Have more money, but less time together40%
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Have more time together, but less money60% -
Having someone who supports you financially, but is less emotionally involved29%
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Having someone who supports you emotionally, but can’t help financially71% -
Regularly planning romantic surprises adds magic, but can get tiring in the long run30%
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Focusing on small, everyday gestures of care, which builds closeness but may feel less exciting70% -
Cooking together every day, even if it takes longer70%
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Everyone cooks for themselves, but faster and easier30% -
Watching a show together, even if you have to wait for your partner for the next episode64%
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Watching shows separately, without the frustration of waiting for the next episode36% -
Doing the weekly grocery shop together77%
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Shopping separately, each for themselves23% -
Doing most chores together65%
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Split chores into “mine” and “yours”35% -
Set a regular split of household chores - everyone has their own tasks and knows what to expect53%
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Do chores as they come up, whoever has time and feels like it - no rigid rules47% -
One shared account for everything50%
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Complete financial independence and settling up as we go50% -
Save for a big dream, but give up little daily pleasures65%
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Spend on little joys now, but not make a big dream come true35% -
Take a well-paid job, but have less time together41%
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Have a less demanding job and more time, but a simpler life59% -
Go away more often on short trips62%
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Travel less often, but for longer and “in style”38% -
Visit the same beloved place every year37%
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Choose a new direction every time63% -
Travel on a budget, but often - because experiences matter47%
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Less often, but choosing trips that feel more comfortable and well-planned53% -
Live in a small but cozy apartment with not much space42%
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Live in a spacious home, but it takes more work and upkeep58%
Deep would you rather questions: the most-voted classics
The big trade-offs: love or money, passion or stability, kids or freedom. Each has been asked more than once, so the votes are added up across every week it ran.
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Cheat on your own37%
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To experience the pain of being betrayed by your partner63% -
Passionate, but emotionally unstable love54%
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A stable but passionless relationship46% -
Having kids, which brings joy but limits time for yourselves66%
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A child-free life, offering freedom, but potentially less fulfillment34% -
Discovering new, exotic places, but with potential stress and high costs57%
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Relaxing in familiar, comfortable places, but with a risk of routine and boredom43% -
Living with financial struggles, but with the love of your life73%
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A life of plenty, but without deep love27% -
Investing in risky projects that could bring big returns, but also the risk of losses41%
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Safe saving, offering stability but lower returns59% -
Spending money on shared experiences (e.g. travel) at the expense of saving for the future59%
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Saving money for the future, but limiting spontaneous pleasures41% -
Being direct, but words can hurt your partner69%
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Avoiding tough topics and being seen as an easygoing, conflict-free person31% -
Higher income and career success, but less time for family41%
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More time for family life and relaxing, but a feeling of lacking career success59% -
Active participation in social life as a couple, which broadens your circle of friends but may limit intimacy43%
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Focusing on the relationship and limiting your social life, which can strengthen your bond but may lead to isolation57% -
Moving abroad in search of new experiences and cultural enrichment, while risking being cut off from family and friends52%
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Staying in the country, which keeps family and friends close, but may limit international experiences48% -
Spend vacations actively, full of sightseeing and adventure55%
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Spend a vacation in a relaxing place, unwinding without rushing45% -
Starting a business together, which can strengthen your teamwork and understanding, but comes with the risk of work conflicts affecting your private life44%
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Keeping independent career paths, which brings personal fulfillment but may limit time spent together56% -
Spending your savings on a year-long adventure around the world, creating unforgettable memories and experiences39%
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Saving money to buy your own home, creating a lasting place to build a life and shared memories61% -
Organizing a small, intimate wedding, which allows for more personality and lower costs, but may limit the number of guests66%
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Deciding on a large wedding, which allows for inviting all loved ones and acquaintances, but involves higher costs and more organization34%
Kids, weddings and the future
The big decisions, and how evenly couples split on them.
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Plan frequent but simpler dates66%
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Plan fewer, but more special dates34% -
Regular, planned dates46%
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Spontaneous outings whenever you feel like it, no planning54% -
Live in a big city, but have no friends35%
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Live in the countryside, but with friends living nearby65%
What 28,000 votes say about couples
A few results stand out. 87% would cut off contact with an ex completely rather than stay close friends. 75% would tell their partner they dislike one of their friends instead of keeping quiet. And when asked to choose between the same plans for the future or the same approach to money, 72% picked the shared future, even if it meant fighting about money. The closest splits are the ones worth playing: on phone privacy, on knowing about every past relationship and on joint versus separate finances, couples split roughly 55/45.
A new dilemma every week
The coupleroom app posts one Dilemma a week. You each vote, see each other’s pick, then see how every other couple voted. The archive has 140+ weeks, including the ones too spicy for this page. If you want quick picks rather than big decisions, try the this or that questions for couples. If you want questions rather than choices, start with funny questions to ask your partner or the couples quiz. Planning December? Try the advent calendar for couples and Christmas date ideas.
Where do the percentages come from?
From votes in the coupleroom app, where the Dilemma runs as a weekly feature. Each side shows its share of the votes, rounded. When a dilemma ran in more than one week, the votes from every run are added together. The numbers on this page are refreshed from the app every week.
What are good would you rather questions for couples?
The best ones have no obvious answer and touch something real: money, family, exes, time together. Start with the latest results above, then the honesty set. Pick separately before you talk, otherwise one of you just agrees with the other.
Are these would you rather questions good for a new couple?
Yes. Start with the “Love, honesty and closeness” set: whether you would want to know about every flirt, whether you would share every secret. They are light to answer and tell you a lot early.
Is there a spicy version?
In the app. The dilemmas about sex stay off this page on purpose; in coupleroom you can turn them on from the Fantasies and Intimacy topics.