Would you rather questions for couples: 30 dilemmas with results

Thirty would-you-rather questions for couples, with one thing no other list has: the percentage of couples who picked each side. They come from the weekly Dilemma in the coupleroom app, where thousands of couples have voted. Answer separately, then compare, then check the numbers.

30 questions

How to play would you rather as a couple

  1. One of you reads the dilemma. Both of you pick a side silently, then reveal on three.
  2. If you agree, say why in one sentence each. If you disagree, the one who picked the minority side goes first.
  3. Only then read the percentages. A 50/50 means couples genuinely split on it; a 75/25 means one of you is with the crowd.
  4. No dilemma has a right answer. The interesting ones are where you are surprised by each other.

Love, honesty and closeness

What you would tell each other, what you would keep, how much space you need.

  1. Have strong physical closeness, but a weaker emotional connection, or have strong emotional closeness, but less physical closeness? (30% picked the first, 70% the second)
  2. Be with someone who shares the same values, but has different interests, or being with someone who shares the same interests but has different values? (72% picked the first, 28% the second)
  3. A relationship where you always talk openly, even if it leads to an argument, or a relationship where you try to avoid difficult conversations so you don’t create conflict? (70% picked the first, 30% the second)
  4. Tell your partner all your secrets, or keep some secrets for yourself? (62% picked the first, 38% the second)
  5. Talk about everything every day, or talk less, but about meaningful things? (69% picked the first, 31% the second)
  6. Always tell 100% of the truth, even if it sometimes hurts, or smooth things over and say them more gently, so you don’t create drama? (60% picked the first, 40% the second)
  7. Talk about your feelings every day, even the little things, or only say something if it was really important? (69% picked the first, 31% the second)
  8. Always tell your partner when you're mad at them, or letting little things go in silence? (66% picked the first, 34% the second)
  9. Tell your partner about every time someone hit on you, or don’t bring up these situations, so they don’t create tension in the relationship? (69% picked the first, 31% the second)
  10. Have a relationship full of closeness, but with little independence, or having lots of independence, but sometimes feeling more distance from your partner? (73% picked the first, 27% the second)
  11. Kiss and show affection in public, even if others are watching, or show affection only privately, at home? (58% picked the first, 42% the second)
  12. Build intimacy through sensual, romantic gestures and atmosphere, or build intimacy through shared play, laughter, and a relaxed approach to each other? (47% picked the first, 53% the second)

Money, home and everyday life

Shared accounts, chores, holidays and where to live. The everyday trade-offs.

  1. Have more money, but less time together, or have more time together, but less money? (40% picked the first, 60% the second)
  2. Having someone who supports you financially, but is less emotionally involved, or having someone who supports you emotionally, but can’t help financially? (28% picked the first, 72% the second)
  3. Regularly planning romantic surprises adds magic, but can get tiring in the long run, or focusing on small, everyday gestures of care, which builds closeness but may feel less exciting? (30% picked the first, 70% the second)
  4. Cooking together every day, even if it takes longer, or everyone cooks for themselves, but faster and easier? (70% picked the first, 30% the second)
  5. Watching a show together, even if you have to wait for your partner for the next episode, or watching shows separately, without the frustration of waiting for the next episode? (63% picked the first, 37% the second)
  6. Doing the weekly grocery shop together, or shopping separately, each for themselves? (77% picked the first, 23% the second)
  7. Doing most chores together, or split chores into “mine” and “yours”? (64% picked the first, 36% the second)
  8. Set a regular split of household chores - everyone has their own tasks and knows what to expect, or do chores as they come up, whoever has time and feels like it - no rigid rules? (53% picked the first, 47% the second)
  9. One shared account for everything, or complete financial independence and settling up as we go? (50% picked the first, 50% the second)
  10. Save for a big dream, but give up little daily pleasures, or spend on little joys now, but not make a big dream come true? (64% picked the first, 36% the second)
  11. Take a well-paid job, but have less time together, or have a less demanding job and more time, but a simpler life? (40% picked the first, 60% the second)
  12. Go away more often on short trips, or travel less often, but for longer and “in style”? (62% picked the first, 38% the second)
  13. Visit the same beloved place every year, or choose a new direction every time? (37% picked the first, 63% the second)
  14. Travel on a budget, but often - because experiences matter, or less often, but choosing trips that feel more comfortable and well-planned? (46% picked the first, 54% the second)
  15. Live in a small but cozy apartment with not much space, or live in a spacious home, but it takes more work and upkeep? (42% picked the first, 58% the second)

Kids, weddings and the future

The big decisions, and how evenly couples split on them.

  1. Plan frequent but simpler dates, or plan fewer, but more special dates? (66% picked the first, 34% the second)
  2. Regular, planned dates, or spontaneous outings whenever you feel like it, no planning? (46% picked the first, 54% the second)
  3. Live in a big city, but have no friends, or live in the countryside, but with friends living nearby? (35% picked the first, 65% the second)

A new dilemma every week

The coupleroom app posts one Dilemma a week. You each vote, see each other’s pick, then see how every other couple voted. There are 140+ in the archive, including the ones too spicy for this page. If you want questions rather than choices, start with questions to ask your boyfriend or your girlfriend, or the couples quiz.

Where do the percentages come from?

From votes in the coupleroom app, where the Dilemma runs as a weekly feature. Each side shows the share of votes it received. The numbers are rounded and move slightly as more couples vote.

Are these would-you-rather questions good for a new couple?

Yes, start with the “Love, honesty and closeness” set: whether you would want to know about every flirt, whether you would share every secret. They are light to answer and tell you a lot early.

Is there a spicy version?

In the app. The dilemmas about sex stay off this page on purpose; in coupleroom you can turn them on from the Fantasies and Intimacy topics.