Questions to ask your girlfriend: 77 cute, flirty and deep

77 questions to ask your girlfriend, sorted by mood: cute questions, flirty ones for later in the evening, fun and random questions for a laugh, deep questions, and questions about the future you are building. Every question works both ways, so answer each one yourself too.

77 questions ·

How to ask

One round per evening is plenty. Read a question aloud, listen to the whole answer without planning yours, then answer it too. Do not grade the answers and do not fix anything; the point is to hear something you had not heard. If a question lands badly, drop it and take the next one.

Fun questions to ask your girlfriend

Dream trips, perfect lazy weekends, what your relationship would be called as a film.

  1. What would your perfect lazy weekend together look like?
  2. What would your dream date look like if there were no budget limits?
  3. What would your dream vacation look like if money were no object?
  4. What would your dream home together look like?
  5. You receive a voucher for your dream trip – where would you go?
  6. What book, movie, or song reminds you most of your relationship?
  7. What would your dream evening at a restaurant look like?
  8. What would your dream picnic look like?
  9. What would your perfect movie night look like?
  10. What would your dream holidays look like this year?

Romantic love questions to ask your girlfriend

What she wants to hear more often, which gesture means more than a gift, which memory she would relive.

  1. What are you most grateful to each other for today?
  2. Which memory would you love to relive?
  3. What always lifts your partner’s mood when they’re having a bad day?
  4. What kind of surprises do you enjoy receiving from your partner the most?
  5. What small gestures of affection in public make you the happiest?
  6. What words from your partner would you like to hear more often?
  7. Name one thing your partner recently did to make your day easier. What was it?
  8. When was the last time you felt appreciated in your relationship?
  9. What small gesture from your partner means more to you than gifts?
  10. What scent reminds you most of your partner?
  11. What gesture from your partner shows you the most that they care about you?

Cute questions to ask your girlfriend

Small gestures, favorite songs and the surprises she secretly hopes for.

  1. What kind of gifts move you the most emotionally?
  2. What’s the sweetest thing your partner has done for you lately?
  3. How do you like to address your partner on a daily basis? (e.g. “babe”)
  4. What colors best represent your relationship?
  5. Which song reminds you the most of your relationship?
  6. What are your favorite shared keepsakes or mementos?
  7. What do you love most about the daily rituals you share?
  8. What is one shared ritual you couldn’t imagine living without?

Flirty questions to ask your girlfriend

What makes her feel wanted, what kind of touch she likes. For later in the evening.

  1. What everyday gestures feel most sensual to you?
  2. How do you like to show desire?
  3. What gestures or words stimulate you the most?
  4. What kind of non-sexual touch turns you on the most?
  5. What kind of touch from your partner instantly makes you feel calmer?
  6. How important is physical touch to you in a relationship?
  7. What attracts you most to each other – physically or emotionally?
  8. What activities help you keep the spark alive in your relationship?
  9. Which looks between you completely disarm you?
  10. What makes you feel desired?
  11. What kind of kisses do you like the most?

Deep questions to ask your girlfriend

Values, boundaries, what makes her feel like herself with you. Ask these when there is time to sit with the answer.

  1. What values are most important to you in a relationship?
  2. What makes you feel that your relationship has the potential to last for many years?
  3. What does “romance” mean to you in a relationship?
  4. What makes you feel like yourself in your relationship?
  5. What makes you feel proud of the relationship you’ve built together?
  6. What values are non-negotiable for you in a relationship?
  7. What traits in your partner make you a better version of yourself?
  8. What do you desire most in your shared future?
  9. What, in your opinion, creates a true “home”?
  10. How would you like to feel in your relationship a few years from now?
  11. What do you love about yourself that took you a long time to accept?
  12. What trait do you admire most in each other?
  13. What makes you feel grateful for your partner?
  14. What does “loyalty” mean to you in a relationship?

Random and silly questions to ask your girlfriend

If your relationship were a perfume, a country, a dictionary entry. Silly, quick and surprisingly telling.

  1. If your relationship were a perfume, what would it be called?
  2. If your relationship were a country, what would its national holiday celebrate?
  3. If your relationship had a dictionary definition, what would it say?
  4. If you got matching tattoos, what would you get?
  5. If you had 10 minutes to pack and leave for a spontaneous trip, where would you go?
  6. What words or jokes between you have a meaning no one else would understand?
  7. What is the most spontaneous and unusual thing you think you’ve done together?
  8. What’s your favorite time of day, and why?
  9. What meal always puts you both in a good mood?
  10. You have a million dollars – what would you spend it on first?
  11. If you could choose one superpower as a couple – what would it be?

Questions about the future to ask your girlfriend

Five years, retirement, the moment she is most excited about. Plans, big and small.

  1. How do you imagine your life together in 10 years?
  2. How would you like your life together to look in five years?
  3. What do you imagine your life together looking like in retirement?
  4. What would you want people to say about your relationship 30 years from now?
  5. If you could ask your future selves one question, what would it be?
  6. What do you think an ordinary day together will look like when you’re both 75?
  7. What future moment are you most excited about right now?
  8. What’s one dream you’d love to make happen within the next year?
  9. What is one dream you would like to fulfill together within the next three months?
  10. If you could plan your dream wedding with no budget, what would it look like?
  11. What shared experiences do you dream about the most?
  12. What dream do you share that no one else would really understand?

Keep it going

These are all from the free set in the coupleroom app. Inside there are 2,500+ more across 100+ topics, a daily question for both of you and Remote Mode for the days you are not in the same room. If you want something lighter, the would-you-rather dilemmas show how other couples voted, and the couples quiz settles who knows whom better. If she wants to ask a few back, send her the questions to ask your boyfriend.

What are good questions to ask your girlfriend on a date?

Start with the fun round: her dream date with no budget, the perfect lazy weekend, the trip she would take with a voucher in her hand. They are easy to answer and each one opens onto a story.

What romantic questions can I ask my girlfriend?

Ask which words she would like to hear more often, which small gesture means more to her than a gift and which memory she would relive. Then do the thing she names.

How many questions should I ask in one evening?

Five or six, with real answers, beat forty in a row. Save the rest. The coupleroom app is built around one good question a day for exactly this reason.