Questions to ask your girlfriend: 40 fun, romantic and deep ones

Forty questions to ask your girlfriend, in three rounds: fun questions for a date, romantic questions about the two of you, and the deep ones. They are written for two, so answer every question yourself as well; that is the part she will remember.

40 questions

How to ask

One round per evening is plenty. Read a question aloud, listen to the whole answer without planning yours, then answer it too. Do not grade the answers and do not fix anything; the point is to hear something you had not heard. If a question lands badly, drop it and take the next one.

Fun questions to ask your girlfriend

Dream trips, perfect lazy weekends, what your relationship would be called as a film.

  1. What would your perfect lazy weekend together look like?
  2. What would your dream weekend in the mountains or by the sea look like?
  3. What would your dream date look like if there were no budget limits?
  4. What would your dream vacation look like if money were no object?
  5. What would your dream home together look like?
  6. You receive a voucher for your dream trip – where would you go?
  7. What book, movie, or song reminds you most of your relationship?
  8. What song could be the soundtrack of your relationship?
  9. What would your ideal trip with no limits look like?
  10. What would your dream evening at a restaurant look like?
  11. What would your dream picnic look like?
  12. What would your perfect movie night look like?
  13. What would your dream holidays look like this year?
  14. If your relationship were a country – what would its national holiday be?

Romantic questions about the two of you

What she wants to hear more often, which gesture means more than a gift, which memory she would relive.

  1. What are you most grateful to each other for today?
  2. Which memory would you love to relive?
  3. What always lifts your partner’s mood when they’re having a bad day?
  4. What kind of surprises do you enjoy receiving from your partner the most?
  5. What small gestures of affection in public make you the happiest?
  6. What are you grateful to your partner for today?
  7. What words from your partner would you like to hear more often?
  8. Name one thing your partner recently did to make your day easier. What was it?
  9. When was the last time you felt appreciated in your relationship?
  10. What small gesture from your partner means more to you than gifts?
  11. What scent reminds you most of your partner?
  12. What gesture from your partner shows you the most that they care about you?

Deep questions to ask your girlfriend

Values, boundaries, what makes her feel like herself with you. Ask these when there is time to sit with the answer.

  1. What values are most important to you in a relationship?
  2. What makes you feel that your relationship has the potential to last for many years?
  3. What does “romance” mean to you in a relationship?
  4. What makes you feel like yourself in your relationship?
  5. What makes you feel proud of the relationship you’ve built together?
  6. What values are non-negotiable for you in a relationship?
  7. What traits in your partner make you a better version of yourself?
  8. What do you desire most in your shared future?
  9. What, in your opinion, creates a true “home”?
  10. How would you like to feel in your relationship a few years from now?
  11. What do you love about yourself that took you a long time to accept?
  12. What trait do you admire most in each other?
  13. What makes you feel grateful for your partner?
  14. What does “loyalty” mean to you in a relationship?

Keep it going

These are forty of the free questions in the coupleroom app. Inside there are 2,500+ more across 100+ topics, a daily question for both of you and Remote Mode for the days you are not in the same room. If you want something lighter, the would-you-rather dilemmas show how other couples voted, and the couples quiz settles who knows whom better.

What are good questions to ask your girlfriend on a date?

The fun round: her dream trip, what she would do with a week without phones, which series she remembers most fondly. They are easy to answer and each one opens onto a story.

What romantic questions can I ask my girlfriend?

Ask which words she would like to hear more often, which small gesture means more to her than a gift and which memory she would relive. Then do the thing she names.

How many questions should I ask in one evening?

Five or six, with real answers, beat forty in a row. Save the rest. The coupleroom app is built around one good question a day for exactly this reason.